4. “I’m Lonely†or “I’m Boredâ€
It’s a sad truth that not all marriages are happy ones. Some of those beaming wedding day couples soon turn into a real-life Revolutionary Road. But if you’re not getting any attention from your partner or you’re unsatisfied with life, bringing a child into the mix isn’t going to help. You can’t have a baby so that “someone will love you.†It’s not a child’s job to provide love and fulfillment to the parent; it’s the other way around. What you really need is a therapist.
5. “My Parents Want Grandchildrenâ€
Your parents are allowed to demand that you do your best in school, that you obey the law, and that you respect their rules while you live in their house. They are not allowed to demand that you bear children solely for their own benefit.
6. “A Baby Will Fix Our Relationshipâ€
There’s a reason that studies consistently show that parents are unhappier, as a whole, than childless married couples. Why? Being a parent is really hard work, and it’s brutal on a relationship. Whatever fissures and emotional breaking points exist in your relationship now, a baby will amplify them by a thousand. A baby won’t make a husband grow up and stop playing video games all weekend. A baby won’t make a wife suddenly learn how not too overdraw the checking account. A baby won’t bring you closer together or solidify your bond or prevent your partner from leaving. A baby will be something you both fixate on for a while, but eventually will become just another thing to fight over.
In a perfect world, every child would be a wanted child born into a stable, loving, financially comfortable family, but of course the world isn’t perfect. And if everyone waited until they were emotionally, physically, and financially ready for kids, the world would be a much-less-crowded place. When it comes down to it, even if you’re a Teen Mom who’s having a baby because you desperately want somebody to love you, the only thing that matters is that you love your baby and try your best to do the right thing. And read to it … I hear that’s really important.
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