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Dealing with the loss of a loved one
« on: November 01, 2011, 01:35:21 AM »
Dear friends,

Two weeks ago, I found out that my Nanay Millie passed away. Nanay was the 1st cousin of my paternal grandfather. So she was like a grandmother to me. In fact, when my parents were abroad, she was in effect like my grandmother and did raise me. When I was only a little boy she would pikpik me so that I would go to bed and sing me songs so that ma tulug ko.

When my father told me that she passed some 2 weeks ago, I did not react to it. It is as if I did not believe it. I could not believe it.

I just web-cammed with Nanay on facebook the previous week. I even saw her and talked to her when I visited Bohol last year 2010. Ning lingkod ko near her and talked to her, kalingaw siya mo gakos nako mo ingon, "Ondoy BranBran daku na kaa kaayo!" and she would also kiss me and whisper to my ear, "Ondoy, kamusta naman imong studies? Doy, gimingaw na ko nimo kaayo".

I always cry when I was with Nanay. I have a weak heart when it comes to loved ones.

It was today when I was driving to work that I started to cry and sob for her. It just hit me. That I cannot see her or ever hear her again. My Nanay Millie.

Nanay was old, but a strong fighter. I will share some memories of her here. She was like a mother / grandmother figure to me when I was just a little boy. When my father was an Engineer in Saudi Arabia and when my mother was in USA, and my sister and i were left in the Philippines alone. I always found solace in the hugs and prayers of my Nanay Millie. She would always prepare food for me, prepare my bed, comfort me when i was missing my parents. And most of all, she taught me how to pray the rosary. And always took me to St. Joseph's Cathedral every Sunday. She taught me the beauty of Eucharistic Adoration.



I miss her. I type this here now, to share in my loss and in my sadness.

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Re: Dealing with the loss of a loved one
« Reply #1 on: November 01, 2011, 03:57:10 AM »
Lorenzo, I'm so sorry for your loss, sakit gyud kaayo bation kon ang  usa sa  minahal mopanaw kay gitawag na sa Ginoo.

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« Reply #2 on: November 01, 2011, 05:59:12 AM »
I can remember that I was 4 years old. Nanay was a very big time Marian devotee and would leave at the morning to go to St. Joseph's Cathedral. I remember one time, i woke up and i found out that she was not next to me. I did the unthinkable.

I put on my chinelas, and i with only my pajamas and with 2 pesos on hand, i rode a tricycle. I remember telling one tricycle driver, 'Adto ko sa Katedral, palihog'. He looked at me, then said, "2 pesos!" He took me to the katedral, pero, to my dismay, i did not find Nanay at the Eucharistic Adoration chapel. She usually is there kay she would always take me there on Sundays after mass.

I did not have any more money for a ride home. I was scared because i could not find nanay, and i did not know how to go home. So i was walking back on the main street. Couple of minutes later, I saw a black Jeep with a man that looked like my Uncle Roger. It was Uncle Roger. He yelled at me, 'Bran! Bran!'. My Uncle Roy and Uncle Rey got out and picked me up and took me to the jeep and drove home.

Upon driving back, I saw my Nanay. She was in tears because she thought that i was lost. Ning dagan ko diritso niya. Gi gakus ko niya. I can remember her scent. Johnson's baby cologne and touch of her arms. I said to her in her ears, "Ayaw lagi ko i-kalimta, Nanay! Gusto ko mo uban nimo!" Nanay was too busy crying and kissing my cheeks.



The day I left Philippines, I remember her face. I will always remember her. I love and miss her so much. Wala na si Nanay...gi gukoha ahong Nanay sa Ginoo...     

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Re: Dealing with the loss of a loved one
« Reply #3 on: November 01, 2011, 06:02:27 AM »
Lorenzo, I'm so sorry for your loss, sakit gyud kaayo bation kon ang  usa sa  minahal mopanaw kay gitawag na sa Ginoo.

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Thank you. Sakit atong kasingkasing kai namatay atong minamahal. I thank God that I was given such a loving Nanay and that he gave us the time we had. Even tho my heart hurts right now and my eyes are tearful,..still we have to Thank God for everything.


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